Where Have All the Flowery Posts Gone?


Okay, dang… just when I get to thinking I am a serious blog hack, someone comes along and declares I need reform.  Perhaps it is time for an overhaul, after all… this month marks three years of AMRFP!

In the past three years we have talked about politics, love, religion, music, books, and movies.  There has been social injustice, chaos  and anarchy.   We seem to teeter on the brink of disaster yet all in good humor and forced optimism because… what else is there?  We obviously cannot pack up our things and relocate to another planet because no one would have us.  We know we are the root problem and reason for disunity in the world but we cannot seem to eradicate this self-destructive urge.  We are constantly bombarded with information, yet how can we decipher it, knowing which is accurate and which is merely bunk?  Here’s another controversy…


My life has turned dramatically since I first fostered this blog on a whim three years ago.  I set out to discover if there was any use in my attempting to write, wondering if I  “had the goods”.  I found my audience to be somewhat sporadic and the subjects I held near and dear to my heart less popular than the ones I thought to be frivolous, so therein lies the paradox.  What I enjoy writing may not be what I am good at, what I am good at may be drudgery.

My most popular post to date has been;  Songs to Play at Your Funeral from April, 2008, which I wrote based on what had actually transpired between my business partner and I one day during a light conversation on death.  It has garnished twice the hits of the runner up;  The Illegal Immigration Solution Conclusion, from June, 2007.  While the latter post has had twice the exposure it has fostered less activity.  I have posted poetry, short stories, a screenplay and the rough draft of my story, Shades of Hemingway. I have progressed (slowly) in my ability to add pictures and video (thanks YouTube) to my posts while trying not to use them in place of good (?) writing.  And after three years, 340 posts, 333 tags, 96 categories, 1004 comments, 37,045 hits and 28,496 spam I am virtually right back where I started from, questioning my validity as a writer.

There has been one bright spot.  Actually, the greatest reward I can think of has come on to me while doing this experiment.  Like most things that we find to make life worthwhile it came unexpectedly, yet has been the difference between merely existing and living.  She sits at my side right now, not realizing I am writing about her.  My beautiful wife, Chantal.

I have proven myself by winning her attention,  admiration and love.  She has faith in my ability and confidence that one day, the world will see what she sees in me, though that confidence in myself wanes and falters.  Through our love of writing; whether via our blogs, to each other publicly or privately, or in our imaginations,  we have accomplished something that would not have materialized otherwise.  We have become each others hero and fan club.  We have become kindred spirits.  Chantal and I are glorious.  I have not failed as a writer, I have acquired a following of one, as she has found in me.

I am living in Canada now, which is quite the contrast from spending most of my life in Florida.  The economy has put a strain on my ability to make a living through my trade and I am still struggling to adapt to life as a foreigner.  But my beautiful girl has the utmost confidence in me so that is a hurdle I will easily overcome with patience.  I am learning to accept that I cannot always have things my way.  But I need to concentrate on making a living and right now it does not look like writing is the way of prosperity for me, at least not financially.

I started this blog in May of 2006 not sure of where it would go, how I would do or how long it would last.  But I feel it has served it’s purpose, at least for a while.  The archives will remain and comments will still be directed to me via e-mail, but I plan on taking a little hiatus.

This month, May 2009, is heading towards being my most active month ever, with seven days left it will easily accomplish this.   The second most active month was back in November of 2007.

I’d like to think that on that note, it is a good time to bow out gracefully.

Thanks for reading  Advantages of Mutual Respect and Fair Play…

there definitely are,  you know.


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7 Responses to “Where Have All the Flowery Posts Gone?”

  1. Cederash Says:

    Мне кажется ништяк!

  2. Avertedd Says:

    Спасибо, хорошая статья. Подписался.

  3. Marge Says:

    what is this?
    I ask for a heartfelt blog and you decide to end it?
    What is the matter with you?
    You are an awful at emailing so this is one way of knowing what is going on with you!!!
    I don’t get it.
    Just don’t get it.
    And it is quite sad to see you end this.
    Love Marge

  4. seamonster02 Says:

    I agree with Marge – if you have developed a readership, why just “bow out” or quit writing? You could cut back on writing every week or so but to say it is over makes one wonder what is going on up there in Canada. Are you depressed? Can’t see you, after years of being a writer, just giving up on it without a better reason than your blog gives.

  5. msdane Says:

    Okay, Marge, Seamonster, he has said he’s taking a hiatus from blogging. He hasn’t said he is giving up writing. Even if he is planning on taking a hiatus from writing at all, I don’t think he can give it up completely–can you chrisfiore5?

    You must be true to yourself. You know not everyone is going to like everything you write–so be it. You have too much talent to turn your back on it. Maybe you’ll never make a living at it, but one never knows for sure. John Lennon’s aunt Mimi told him, “A guitar’s all right John, but you’ll never make a living from it.” He had those words engraved and put on a plaque for her when the Beatles made it.

    Just remember to write from your heart. Write about the things that important to you or move you in some way or other. I KNOW you’ve got what it takes, there is no doubt in my mind. I also have told Seamonster the same thing about her writing. I have faith in you both, and I think what Marge meant is the posts about Mom, or growing up, things we went through together are very welcomed by all of us.

    I think you should write about growing up on Sand Road. The good, the bad, and the ugly. The ups the downs, triumphs and failures–I truly think you could do it the justice it needs.

    And if Seamonster is reading this, I believe she should write fiction. She’s extremely good at it.

    Didn’t mean to get overly windy here. Love ya.

    Leave a Reply

  6. msdane Says:

    Oops! What did I do? I also think you should write about your teenage years and the things you and friends did. Things you and I did (remember Colorado?)

    Sorry about that reply posting twice.

  7. chirchi965 Says:

    O_o ….haha just when I decide to come back to blogging you are on your break…oh well,everyone needs that..some time away from their blogs ….like me… I will just have to catch up with all that I have missed…and please come back !!!!

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